I love tea parties / afternoon tea. They are cute and fun and most of the food is miniature. If you have them with the right people, you get to pretend to be fancy but there's not pressure to be actually pRoPeR. Where we live now though, places that serve afternoon tea average about $70 a head and won't accomodate allergies! Which is ludicrous.
However we have an amazing local tea shop. Most weekends they have tea flights (5 themed tea flavors, as much as you want) for about $10 a person, and 3 pots of tea usually cost a similar amount. And they let you bring outside food! So we can bring our own sandwiches and sweets and scones, that I can safely eat, and with just a little bit of setup get the full tea party experience!
My wife uses the King Arthur Baking scones recipe. It works great with dairy-free substitutes. She usually just makes half because otherwise we can't finish the scones before they go stale.
You can also pick up a scone (or your favorite pastry) from a bakery, which is what I would do if the vegan options at bakeries were not the saddest "healthy" muffin you ever saw.
Make sure you remember to pack jam / clotted cream / whatever you're planning to spread on your scones! You can also add some fresh fruit to this tier. It looks pretty & tastes good!
This is the tier that has tiny little desserts. If you're going all-out, you want 3-4 different tiny desserts. When I don't feel like actually making desserts, I get a store-bought cookie I can eat and just serve a few of them - siete has some cookies that are great for tea, and sometimes I find something store-brand that works.
Here are some ideas for going more all-out:
I absolutely love tea sandwiches! This is also the place to put mini quiche, sausage rolls, and other bite-size savory food. Similar to the sweet tier, you want 3-4 varieties. Also similar to the sweet tier, you can do something easier or go all-out on your miniature sandwich creations.
When I want to do something easier, I get a cheap loaf of white bread (usually cheaper bread has thinner slices, which is ideal for tea sandwiches) and make some easy sandwiches (minimal filling prep - many can be store bought) cut into quarters:
You can also use some freezer-aisle apps, as long as you have a way to keep them warm wherever you're going:
When you want to take it up a notch, here are some suggestions. I always suggest miniaturizing your favorite sandwich to start, and you can always fancify classic tea sandwiches: